Hey, good people!

I hope you are well, living out your dreams, planning short or long trips, doing things that make you uncomfortable for growth, and hugging and kissing your favorite people. If you are having a tough time, please know that it doesn’t always last, and keep a positive mindset even DURING the storm. I also hope that everyone works through their short & long terms goals. A new short-term goal of mine is to have clothes for all occasions! I am a very casual dresser, but I am going to a party and need a cocktail dress, but I don’t have one! WTH! So, I have intended to purchase attire for all occasions because if I stay ready, I don’t have to get ready. I hate to shop, so this will be a challenge, but I have a friend who is a stylist, and she has a GIFT of dressing people! She has helped me a great deal since they moved to Atlanta. The party is in two days, and I will party the night away!

A HUGE THANK YOU FOR THE “LIKES” AND NEW FOLLOWERS, and it makes my heart smile! 💝 I am not a blogging expert, but I love this passion project!

Hello Fall! I love the fall weather, and driving with my sunroof open, windows down, and singing loud on the freeway, “I THINK I’M FALLING IN LOVE, I’m IN THE MOOD TO F SOMETHING UP!”. I wake up, walk my dog, open my bedroom and dining room windows so the house can get chilly, and I get under the covers and go back to sleep. My new bed makes it that much better. Hahahaha

I went home to LA for a few days for some self-care! Los Angeles feels like a BIG HUG when I go home. I got a facial, had a hair appt., had dinner with my friend at Ruth’s Chris Steak House, and spent time with mommy and daddy, godson and cousins! My dad picked me up from the airport, and I took him to breakfast. While at breakfast, I had a mimosa, and it was 9 am. WHY DID I DRINK THAT EARLY?! I can’t drink champagne!! I was in the backyard sleeping like a baby in a linen blazer, jeans, heels, and lipstick. I was sleeping on the patio furniture like I was in bed. That damn champagne took me out. Then, Daddy comes into the backyard, hollering for me to wake up, so I won’t miss my hair appointment. Hahaha

I returned to the A on a Saturday and rushed home to get dressed so I could attend the Sippin’ Safari at the Zoo. It was such a good time! I was so damn tipsy because I had so much wine, but I discovered Whiskey Cask Scottish Cider! OMG! According to my Google search, it was so delicious and cost $70 for a four-pack. Yikes! I have not ordered the cider, but maybe I can put it on my Christmas list. Hahaha Santa help a sista out. The food trucks had great food, a great band, and good vibes. I wore shorts, a top, a light jacket, and some leopard converse. I felt my shoes were inappropriate since I was at the Zoo and my friend arrived in her Zebra Vans. Hahahaha, Animal print for EVERYBODY, and we kept the party going. Hahahaha The crazy thing is I am notorious for drunk texts and calls, and that night was no different. #baddecision

So, let’s get down to business because I am sick of this shit! Dating can be fun, and it can also be exhausting! A guy I know has asked me several times how much a few of my things cost, and he has commented about me always taking trips and never sitting still, and it feels like he is making judgments on how I live my life. Also, remember that we have never had a conversation about us being together, getting married, traveling, or finances, and I have never asked him for ANYTHING, so WTH are you speaking on things that don’t pertain to him? I had a gentleman visit a couple of years ago; he walked into my home and was shocked that my place was decent and pleasing to the eye. He kept saying “hmph,” and he kept looking around, and I was thinking to myself, how in the hell did you think I was living? Did he assume my place would look like trash because he has a big home and I have a condo? Did he think I had a mattress on the floor and sheets in my window? When I moved to Atlanta, I didn’t have ANYTHING except what I packed in my car, and a bed I purchased in my first apartment. So, during his dinner visit, he looked around, asked me questions, and tried to figure out how much I pay for mortgage instead of saying, “I like your place; this is nice!”

I am a working woman that loves Target. I take care of myself because I must, but that doesn’t mean I don’t need or want a strong, affectionate, emotionally intelligent, and down-to-earth man who knows where he wants to be. He can be vulnerable and transparent because what we have will be unique, and he wants the relationship to work. I also need a person with whom I feel physically and emotionally safe. However, I will not sit at home and live my life having and doing the bare minimum, waiting for him to show the f$%k up!

I have encountered men who say they want a relationship but are not emotionally ready and need to work on healing to create space for the next relationship. As people, we all have experiences from our past that have shaped us in some form or fashion, but I do my best to work on my issues and create loving, healthy relationships. Also, I must take full accountability for my actions because I know on the first date if I should move forward, and there are times that I don’t listen to my intuition because we have fun or we have good chemistry, and I set myself up for failure EVERY time. I am working on severing ties sooner than later because I knew on the first date that the “Judgey Man” was not a good option for me, and I still dealt with him!

I am still excited about dating and the holiday season, hahaha My sister is coming to town so we can go to the haunted house; I want a Christmas tree this year, and I am looking forward to the holidays. I am going to a party this week and am home practicing my dance moves.

Have a great week!

Until next time!
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