Hey, good people!

I hope you all are doing well! I hope you move your body, sleep well, and live in gratitude. Make sure that you are receiving and giving hugs when you need them, have a good skincare routine, kissing and rubbing on your lovers, and spending time with friends and family. Intimacy is essential to me, but I want you all to be loved on too! Hahaha ❤️

I love the holiday season; people are cheerful, and I love the Christmas lights and Trees around the city. I want to find a mistletoe to hang over the doorway for the holidays, and I want some damn gifts, so I may need to write Santa and tell him that I have been a good girl. Hahahaha Sending love, light, and hugs to all that are missing their loved ones that are no longer here daily and during this holiday season – I love you!

I have set my goals for 2023 and am considering making a career change, but I need to put my plan together. I have been cooking more and spending a lot of time at the Farmer’s Market. I went one night during the week and had a very intimate exchange over an avocado. He was in my face and staring me down like I was ripe and ready! hahahaha After that intense moment, he asked,” Where is the cilantro?” Sir, I do not work here! Hahaha

I recently took a road trip and sang my heart out between meetings. I have a heavy foot, and it was so hard not to speed, but I didn’t need any interactions with the highway patrol. My dog was riding shotgun and staring at me like where the hell are we going, Mom! Hahaha, We only stopped once for him, and we pushed it the rest of the way. Sheesh!

It was not my desire to get married or have children, but I have changed my mind about marriage. Also, I planned to marry a man with children, and we would be a loving blended family, and I wouldn’t have to bless him with any children. I have children in my family, and they are in Los Angeles, but I have a few friends here with children. I babysat my seven-year-old buddy recently, and I have been watching him since he was seven months old. Well, I was on the phone with a friend and talking to my buddy simultaneously, and he was blown away by my interactions with my buddy! He said, “Wow! You are good with him!”. I explained to him that I have godchildren and have helped raise children. My buddy went home Sunday evening. My friend called after he left; he said, “I must tell you that I love you even more because I have never witnessed your interaction with a child before. You would be an amazing MOM. I assumed that because you don’t want children, you didn’t like them!” I asked. “Why would you assume that? I love children, but I never wanted any children.” It’s funny that he made that assumption considering it is the farthest thing from the truth. Then, someone else told me I would be a great mom because of how I treat my fur baby. Hahaha, I love my dog!

I have had men tell me they would not date me because I don’t have children and have never been married. The initial thought is, damn, that’s rude, but to be honest, I have the same reservations for men that have no children and have never been married. I know that sounds crazy because I share the same scenario, but it makes me nervous! The man may be selfish or unwilling to compromise.

The audacity of me! It doesn’t make sense that I feel this way because I have never been married and have no children, which could concern many men, but I instantly think a man may be selfish. I met a man recently while I was out shopping; he’s older than I am, never married, and has no children, and when he shared those details, I thought to myself, “Yikes!” I have no interest in him, not because he has never been married or has no children, but because he is boring. Ugh! He is very longwinded, and I have fallen asleep on a couple of calls, but after that last one, I had to have a heart-to-heart with myself and say, “Let it go!”

I have some amazing male friends that don’t have children and have never been married while being great leaders and loving. They are good to me as a friend, so I know they will be great fathers and husbands if that is their desire. Husbands can be selfish too, so if a person has no children and has never been married, that doesn’t define how amazing a partner someone can be. I still date men that have never been married or don’t have any children, but I only have met a few men that have never experienced either in my age bracket. When I begin to date younger, I know the narrative will change. 😉

Until next time!
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