Him: I got a question, I need a real-life answer

Me: hmmm okay

Him: Do you like me?

Me: I need better context because it sounds childish, so I am trying to understand

Him: Oh, okay. Like, are you still interested in dating?

Me: Based on things that have happened in our past, I am not interested

Him: Okay!

Him: What would your Mom say?

Me: To leave you where you are at!

I am genuinely surprised he texted me to ask that, especially since I have told him in the past that we are not compatible and can’t be friends after our brief dating experience. He is not a bad person, but there are differences in character for me. On that trip, he embarrassed my ass a few times in front of his family, and he was upset that he wasn’t aware I could speak/understand some Spanish, which was part of the decision that led me not to look back. But that was one of the most beautiful weddings I had ever been to, and it took place in a Spanish mansion overlooking the water. I ate, drank, and partied the night away, celebrating the beautiful couple. The family enjoyed me so much that they offered to have us come visit in Nashville and stay with them. Haha, I knew there was no “US” after that trip. I was on my best behavior because I didn’t go all that way to not have a good time.

Well, he recently attended another wedding with his family, and they asked him about me because they enjoyed my company. So, he texted while he was at a wedding event before the big day, telling me his family was asking about me, which may have prompted his text.

I believe it’s important to see your person in various environments when dating to better understand who they are. It’s essential that I feel safe and respected by my partner, and I didn’t feel my needs were fully met, so I didn’t see a future for us. I let him know not to reach out again, and I wish him well.

Character should be a huge topic of discussion in dating along with other non-negotiables for you, because each person is different, and we all don’t have the same non-negotiables. I’ve dated men who have done well financially, but their character was trash! No one is perfect, and we all make mistakes, but you can tell how someone feels about you by the way they treat you, regardless of what they say. A friend would always say, “ A woman falls in love between her ears, and a man falls in love with his eyes.” When I was younger, I probably would have stayed in contact, but thank goodness for growth!

I didn’t block him, but I hope he gets the message!

Until Next Time!

What’s next starts now!