Hey, Good People!

Here’s hoping all of you are doing well and thriving! Make sure you celebrate big and small wins, operating in the best version of yourself, and you are not all work and no play.

The week before last was horrible, I mean one for the books. During my terrible week, I focused on being grateful that I am alive & well and I have a fantastic community of friends to stay in a good space. However, I had a great weekend! I recently had a job interview, but I couldn’t find the headband I love, so I put on my workout headband. I had on my lipstick and was camera ready, but I could not stop laughing in my head and praying that they could not see the Adidas logo on the side of my head. Hahahaha

I just returned from LA, and it felt good to be home for a few days; If I had my fur baby, I would have extended my trip. I attended my cousin’s baby shower to celebrate the new bundle of joy and went to the spa for excellent body treatments and mimosas with my other cousin. I also hit up a few of my favorite spots with a friend, and it was great to catch up on good drinks, love, and laughter.

Last week I reached out to my ex-lover for some feedback because I do not date myself, and I wanted to know what he had to say. We dated last year, but I was living in two places, and when I landed in the A, my schedule would be packed with more travel or plans with my friends, so I didn’t think it would be anything serious. We always spent time together when I was in town, but I asked him a question that pissed him off, and he was insulted because he was under the impression that he was showing me in each possible way that he was interested. His top love languages are quality time and physical touch, and my top three love languages are acts of service, physical touch, and affirmations. I love to hear how a person feels (not all the time) in addition to them showing me, and affirmations are not his thing. So, he let my ass know that as much as I like to hear affirmations, I need to make sure that I am doing the same for the other person….Well, alrighty then! When dating, I vibe off of the other person, so it wasn’t that I don’t share affirmations, but I didn’t share them with him.

Then, I started to think, “Would I date myself”…..I am caring and thoughtful, and it is safe to be yourself. We will laugh, dance, hug and kiss, but I’m grumpy when sleepy. I will ask many questions….damn! I need to work on asking questions and just enjoy the moment. Hahaha. I will focus on being more in the moment and trust my intuition. What is something that you would change in your dating life, and would you date yourself?

Until next time!

What’s next starts now!